how to handle marriage issue

Marriage is a job. It's not easy to keep marriage going. To keep two different person together is not easy at all. but if we love each other, why we not together forever? I been married with a man from northern Europe and I am from southeast asia. Totally different language, culture, food, lifestyle and value about things. We been married for almost four years after few years in relationships. so here we go :
1. Take a break and think back
when things too upsetting for both of us, we decided to take a break from each other and think back how far we been walking together. then came back to each other and ask for apologize.
2. Find the roots of problems
find why we get into that problem, is because we not loving each other anymore, or because other issue that we can talk to fix it.
3. my way or highway
when husband upsetting me with his rules, I gave him option 'my way or highway'. never let the man have full  power. husband and wife should balance power in the house.
4. be original
be your self, if he or she really loves you, they will love you as you are.
5. do it like playing kite
this is what my mum used to says. have you ever play kite? you can not be tight or pulling all the time because the kite won't fly properly or kite will come off. sometimes you have to let it go to keep it fly properly and sometimes you have to pull it back when it goes too far. sometime you have to be relax about it but sometimes you have to show your guts.