dilema pernikahan dengan WNA

Pernikahan kami sudah melewati 3 tahun. Tahun pernikahan yang bisa dibilang masih singkat. Perbedaan usia antara kami yang terpaut jauh, sangat mempengaruhi perbedaan psikologis kami. Ed lebih melihat ke bagaimana menikmati sisa hidup nya dengan harta yang ada. Sementara saya diusia yang jauh lebih muda masih bersemangat bekerja, meraih pendidikan setinggi mungkin, mengejar harta lebih dan lebih lagi. Ed tak sabar memiliki keturunan sementara saya pingin nya diundur aja dulu deh. Kita udah mulai konsultasi bayi tabung. Urusan keturunan itu kan urusan yang kuasa, sebagai manusia kita hanya berusaha. 3 minggu lagi kita meeting dengan dokter, Ed semangat sementara saya banyak memikirkan urusan pekerjaan. Walau kata Ed saya gak usah mikirin sejauh itu tapi kalo ingat perjuangan saya dari awal sampe bisa begini itu gak mudah. Saya tidak ingin mengakhiri karir saya karena ada nya anak. Ed pingin nya saya dirumah dengan anak. Usulan anak di titipkan di ortu sampai usia 3 atau 5 tahun jelas di tolak Ed. Karena dia hanya mau anak di rawat berdua. Gak boleh di pegang baby sitter, ortu atau titip di child care. Saya dikasih duit bulanan buat keperluan pribadi. Ed pingin nya pindah menetap di holiday house kita di desa kalo udah ada anak. Rumah yang saat ini di tempatin mau di kontrakin. Sementara saya lebih suka tinggal di rumah saat ini. Karena deket ke tempat kerja saya dan banyak pekerjaan di sekeliling sini. Inilah dilema antara saya dan dia.

my plan to visit hometown in 2017

I am so excited to tell everyone that I am going to Jakarta in 2017. This plan had been delayed for over a year. I was planning to visit hometown this year in winter but again, due to my busy activity between work, study and business I had to delay this plan again. All flights and hotels has been booked. We will travel from Melbourne to Labuan Bajo (transit in Denpasar) we will be there for a week just to calm our mind before visit family in Jakarta for 3 days. Why only 3 days? We acknowledge that our family relationships situation is not really good. For courtesy reason, we will visit family on the first day of our arrival in Jakarta then the second day we will visit places that we have not been visit (Betawi village aka kampong betawi, night culinary, etc) on the last day I will spend time with old friends so they have been inform of my arrival in June next year. They are so excited as I am. We will spend our quality time in bali for 2 weeks, we will stay in Ubud for a week which means I will do art shopping and culinary, then a week in Nusa dua in this place we will do bussiness travel little bit that we are planning to look for some accommodation bussiness (hotels or resort or villas) as both of us will go for retirement in 2-3 years. Not full time retirement, we just want to spend more time together managing our bussiness. Then we will stay 3 nights in Jimbaran, we are planning to have a rest at Jimbaran, spend more time in hotel room, cuddle up with hubby because we been busy for most of the time and we acting like we are single.